Post by Helen Dagner on May 18, 2007 4:14:18 GMT -5
You know for the past16 years...I have done a lot of thinking about John and why did he do this?...oh I always accepted his motive...but I always thought he had additional reasons...after several Interviews this week...I feel I have learned what they were.../He did poorly in school, had trouble holding down jobs, and often work as unskilled laborers/ I remember hearing on Tv -years ago-an explanation- is the serial killer's upbringing so I asked & I got answers....I wanted to know the things John never told me about his life...and now I see why he never mention them...Oh he had told me he hated his Mother & father...but I have heard people say that about their parents before...but I never dreamed that his life was so horrible...I knew that even families that appear healthy on the outside may be putting on an act. Children can learn the "Jeckyl and Hyde" routine from parents who are outgoing and social with neighbors and co-workers, but who scowl at their kid's inadequacies when they get home.As I listen to people telling me about Johns life I was thinking In this case, the abuse of children by their parents was barbaric, and it seems little wonder that anything but a fledgling serial killer would come from such horrible squalor. ...and I have this gut feeling as I tell you this-His Parents did abuse their children, physically as well as psychologically,and instill in them an almost instinctive reliance upon violence as a first resort to any challenge. Childhood abuse not only spawns violent reactions, No, but also affects the child's health, including brain injuries, malnutrition, and other developmental disorders.I remember when I talked with Johns dad it was Apparent he believed that by being harsh disciplinarians, it would "toughen" the child. Instead, it created a lack of love between parent and child that had disastrous results. {If the child doesn't bond with its primary caretakers, there is no foundation for trusting others later in life.} For John it lead to isolation, where intense violent fantasies became the primary source of gratification---More